Subsistence Farming - Hawaii

our nvc teacher’s intention with our class was to eventually let us become a teacher-less group. we are using the nvc workbook diane used and we take turns teaching. however, what is really exciting for me has been listening to nvc tapes and dvd’s. i just bought some of the more advanced materials and am getting so much our of them. listening tomarshall empathize with people is such a gift. it is such a powerful way for me to be learning. i get it in a deeper way. i stopped trying to be impeccable with my “feelings,” “needs” and “requests”. it was too easy for me to get lost in the process and never get around to dropping down into my heart and being authentic. mostly for me it is transitioning away from an old way of thinking versus learning a process of communicaion. the big difference is the idea of taking 100% responsibility for my feelings. putting that into daily practice is challenging with all my habits of figuring out who did what wrong, or planning my defense.

regarding co-counseling (rc), i did lots of of it as soon i learned about it when lauren was a babe in arms. it was one of the most impactful processes in my life. i emotional discharging enlivened me. i can’t believe how much clarity it created in lauren after i supported her to rage or cry. but most of all RC gave me an image of myself as completely good. and luckily i had little precious baby lauren to model that for me.